Sex and Relationships

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I have been reading articles recently on a wide range of topics about men, not only to understand my other half but to also understand the mind of men. Out of so many general topics, I found out that the most common and most controversial topic would be this, "Why is my man not interested in me?"

It seems that young and old women alike faced the same problems:

1. They would be with their partner for (duration) and used to have sex at first.
2. Then, the sex activities would decline and the females would yearn for it.
3. Females would hate yearning for it because they feel like the guys should yearn for it instead of them always pampering and "begging" their other half.
4. They feel ugly, low self confidence, unwanted and etc. due to being rejected by their other half when they have the bravery to ask.
5. They feel like crying every time they were rejected although their other half said "I love you".
6. Initiating it would feel like complaints and nagging to the males, so the females would just stop and hold her urge to be pleasured inside her.
7. And, sex was not as nice as it used to be due to him giving in.

Personally, I feel that this is really different when it comes to the couples because not everybody is the same. Some would have different thinking compared to others. In fact, some tried to talk to their partner and failed because nothing changed. I would feel the same if I were in their shoes: hopeless, lost, unattractive and the feeling to be pleasured mounting but unable to be released. But, nothing can be done until I take the first step. First, understanding and then, action. But, even as I try to find the solution for women who faced the same problem as the one stated above me, I feel disappointed towards guys like these from the very bottom of my heart.


Here are some solutions from websites that may help:
Quick understanding: Stress and feeling like he’s not on top of his game can kill his desire for sex.
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The biological underpinning is that stress lowers testosterone… Google around on the effects of stress and impotence for men. Without diving into the deep psychological guts, the easiest answer is to aim towards finding ways to put him at ease and feel more like a winner in his life in general.
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In nature, “losing” is synonymous with stress. The monkeys at the bottom of the social chain are way more stressed – they face more dangers and risks and the elevated stress crashes their sex drive to rock bottom.
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From a biological standpoint, he might be a modern man… but in caveman days, his stress levels mirror being that bottom-rung male.
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Understanding stress, testosterone and sex drive is where you should look in addition to what you see here.
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Some guys feel stress very deeply and internally can make mountains out of molehills. From a stress standpoint, that can shoot testosterone down real quick…
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But feeling like a winner, being stress-free and happy with life in general will have him feeling like a teenager again. Diet, exercise and weight-lifting can help too – it helped me a lot with this issue.

You don’t have to be his shrink or his mommy or anything.  Give him space to figure his stuff out, don’t pressure him about the sex thing and try your best to be patient.  If you can do those things, I think you’ll be fine in a relatively short period of time.

tO b3 conTinu3d..